Expectations are kind of like the tide. Too low, and no ships can pass on the water or allow ocean life to thrive. Too high, and you feel like you are drowning.
In this analogy, I can clearly see how this plays out. The “low” tide can be when people do not think someone with a disability is capable. By limiting expectations, we limit opportunity and withhold necessary emotional and tangible support.
When expectations are too “high,” we cut off people from honoring legitimate and necessary adaptations that are needed for full inclusion and self-determination.
As you can see, neither extreme works in life. The solution is to set aside out own personal biases and allow us to meet each person we encounter where they are at.